Leaving an Abusive Relationship Most abused women eventually leave their abuser permanently or take action that decreases or ends the abuse (Bowker, 1983; Okun, 1986). The process of ending the abusive relationship and recovering from its effects involves repeated at- tempts at leaving and returning (Walker, 1984). Abstract. Intimate partner violence is prevalent throughout the world. When wives are abused, they are faced with the decision whether to remain in…